Focusing On What You Want From Life And Way To Achieve It

There are times in our life when we have to take big decisions that may affect the course of our life. There are also times when we really feel helpless, disoriented and indecisive and believe we need a hand in order to figure out how to proceed with our life.

Actually, those are the moments when you should not depend on someone else’s advice, because, even if they gave a very sincere advice, in case anything goes wrong, you might blame them for it. That is why it is best to always take the decisions by yourself whenever you find yourself at a crossroad.

Then, how do we know which one to choose? What is best for us?
 
There is a way or you can call it a meditation technique that has been practiced for centuries by people from various part of the world. Basically, the idea is to find out what we really want in our life. Then we need to discover all the negative thoughts that are “attacking” us or constantly being produced in our minds. When we realize that these unhealthy thoughts or presumptions are not true, we begin to dump those thoughts and actually starting to gain control over our decisions and our lives.

Here’s how the meditation technique works:-

1. Firstly, you need to be away from any source of distraction, since you are going to analyze your deepest feelings and thoughts.
 
2. Secondly, ask yourself a series of questions that will help you to better determine who you really are and what you really want. The questions should relate to common daily aspects of your lives such as:-

• What is more important to me, my family life, my career or something else?
• What would make me most proud of myself during my entire life?
• What do I like doing?  
• What is it that I always wanted to do but never found the time? (you can include anything here, from visiting old school's friends, climbing Mount Everest, or seeing your dentist).
• What role does money play in my life?
• How much do I depend on others?

All these questions will help you determine exactly where you stand and what is it that you want out of your life. That is, to get the right interpretation from your own replies.

If you are worried about a certain decision, let all the questions be related to that issue.
If you’re just confused when asking the questions, think about the common topics that you have to deal with during your life. Be sincere to yourself. Write down the answers.

Mark with a highlighter whatever pride worthy answers you find and use a darker colored highlighter to mark those that don’t make you proud.
   
Post the list on a few places where you can see it often. You’ll notice that, little by little, even unwillingly, the things on the list that don’t make you feel proud also start becoming worthy to you. You can update the list when most of it has changed “positively” for you.
This is definitely one of the best ways to always be aware of and achieve your own expectations from life.

All the best to you.